Your Anger Is Allowed
My anger is a healthy response to real harm. I am allowed to feel it without apology.
Are you angry — at the person who hurt you, at the people who did not see what was happening, at the years that were taken, at yourself for not knowing sooner? You have every right to that anger. It is one of the most honest things you can feel right now.
Anger is what the soul does when something wrong has been done. It is your inside self saying, quietly or loudly, that what happened was not okay. Without anger, you would have to call mistreatment normal, and you have already been asked to do that for too long. Anger is the voice that refuses.
Many survivors struggle with anger because they were taught to suppress it. To be nice, to be understanding, to be quick to forgive. To rise above. The trouble is that anger held down does not go away. It goes underground — where it becomes heaviness, sleeplessness, illness — or it leaks sideways onto people who never earned it. Anger met honestly, on the other hand, moves through.
You are allowed to be angry that someone you loved hurt you. You are allowed to be angry that your life was rerouted by someone else's harm. You are allowed to be angry that healing is slow and costly and full of days you did not ask for. Your anger does not make you bitter. It means you know that what happened to you was wrong. That knowing is part of how you find your way back to yourself.